Question by Brian: My friend: a sexy but sensitive girl I want to help.?
I’m best friends with her best friend, and we share all common friends down the lines. I’ve known her for 2 years. My friends who don’t know her see her and when she leaves, tell me I should “hit that.” Most of my guy friends that know her, want her. We went to a movie tonight.
She told me how people always say she’s hott, but ONLY when they’re drunk and that makes her mad. So, I told her she was pretty.
…The movie was terrible, but we laughed and had fun anyway.
She’s sensitive to the point that saying “you spilled ketchup on your shirt” may somehow be related to you finding a way to take your anger and disapproval out on her, so you have to be careful. In response, most guys might give her a tough time.
I want to help her out and talk, but I fear/know if I ask her alone like that, she’ll network all (our) friends and ask their opinion on what I’m doing. It would look like I’m trying to date/sleep with her, when I’m not.
Why do girls do that? Is there some way to prevent this?
We are friends. I sat with her every day at lunch this year, and we have the same best friend. I just know I’m the only one that can help her see all these things she worries about and hates, so I feel like I should.
She needs to hear a guy’s point of view, (her girlfriends haven’t and can’t help her like I could) and all the other guys she’d talk to just want to sleep with her, so I’m in a critical position to help to be nice. Not only do I feel like I owe her one, but she’s my best friend’s (best friend). Even If I made her mad, I could easily never see/run into her again, but why not help someone out if I can? That’s what I’d want if I were in her shoes.
It just looks bad when I jump right into that, and she seems to say every little thing that happens to all her (our) friends, so I look bad to them too. (Hence I also ask, why aren’t girls ever independent? Or how can I avoid this?)
Answer by from me to you
Take it slow so that there’s no chance for a misunderstanding of your intentions. Become her friend first and let her get to know you well before you get romantic with her. If you’re honest upfront with her, then there shouldn’t be any problems in the future.
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